There I was five years ago sitting in front of a medium. I’d never been to see a medium before so I had no idea what to expect. He opened his mouth and began to speak and his very first words to me were, “Your wife is not your soul mate”. Tears ran down my face. My wife, Suzie meant the world to me.
I was about to embark on a mission to learn what a soul mate is and more so, how we attract one. Do they really exist and should we put our life on hold for one?
The first conclusion I came to was that we should be a little careful about the way in which we see our soul mate. One would assume that a soul mate is perfect in every shape and form; someone who is honest, protects us from harm, makes us happy, gives to us in every way, has no bad habits, no past emotional baggage, and so on. Now I would like to ask you to stop for a moment and think whether you really believe there’s someone out there who fits all your desires and behaves as you perceive a soul mate to be?
Ok, NOW let’s look at you. YES YOU! Let’s see what your soul mate would think about you if he or she met you face to face. They shake your hand and at the same time they look into your eyes and they see a sensitive person wearing clothes that don’t look like your colours. This person sees someone too shy or perhaps too powerful and they feel you aren’t quite soul mate material. IT’S ALL OVER BEFORE IT EVEN BEGAN! Please, try not to listen to your brain because that’s amazing at creating illusions and fantasies which can keep you frozen in time looking for Mr or Mrs Right. I am now hoping you may have come to a new understanding that perhaps maybe there’s no such thing as the kind of soul mate you perceive so there’s no reason to put someone on a pedestal then find he or she hasn’t measured up to your brain’s fantasies and expectations, If that’s the case it’s a much better place for us to begin
Allow me to let you into a secret. Today stop looking for your soul mate and instead start climbing to the top of your mountain and becoming the happiness person you can be. Don’t concentrate on finding a soul mate, concentrate on becoming one instead! And at the same time all this hard work on yourself will pay huge rewards when it comes to your health and general peace of mind. Work towards this goal and I promise you this, once you’re at the top of your mountain and feeling at your happiest and strongest, you’ll find that someone will come into your life and you will start to see your paths coming together as you both begin to look in the same direction, understanding each others feelings with a greater understanding than ever before. This will all happen because now you have grown stronger with your own positive feelings. You’re able to see past the negatives and into your beautiful future day by day. In time you will both mould together and now you’re feeling that he or she has become almost perfect. You know his faults yet you understand them. You don’t allow them to interfere with this new relationship and as a result you’ll become near perfect soul mates/ earth angels or whatever you want you call them. When we find happiness, happiness finds us.
We cannot expect that someone coming into our life should be there forever. When we meet someone we should be happy on a daily basis and never take for granted that this new relationship has to be forever, for within these thoughts there lies a sense of possibly "taking each other for granted" or at least a really huge pressure on both parties. I never take my wife for granted. I tell her I love her each day and I’m so grateful she is in my life that day. I even plan to renew my vows again this year because I never presume that I own her, or expect Suzie to be by my side forever. I work at being in her life everyday by being the best person I can be and by doing so, it brings out the best in me and our happiness when we’re together. I’m not perfect by a long shot, but to know this and work on my weaknesses shows that I care for my wife's feelings which pays great rewards in our being together.
So stop to think if like attracts like and if you’re at your happiest and strongest, the person you become you will attract! You can do it because I believe in you. See you at the top!
